Saturday, September 22, 2012
Blog # 2 SO YOU'RE ATTRACTED, NOW WHAT? Comments due Monday, Sept 24th
Now that we have discussed what men and women find attractive, what's the next step? Studies show that we have approximately 4 minutes in the contact stage to make a good impression. And based on that first impression, many of us make up our minds on whether or not we want to pursue the relationship to the next level or just remain acquaintances.
Share with us your favorite pick-up lines (funny, serious, cheesy, etc). From your own experiences, do they work? What do you think is the best "pick-up" strategy? (Leave a green dangly earring behind? Put your phone number in their phone?) Let's see what you can come up with!
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I am one of THE most socially retarded dorks in history of existence. I can literally write a book on how to make the most awkward first impressions.
ReplyDelete"Hey, look at that tree...it's a pretty big tree...I wonder how many rings it has"
"Have you ever stuck a Furby in a microwave and watched it burst into flames?"
"Do you smell something? Yeah, me neither"
My freshman year of high school I straight-up told this one chick she gave me a boner.
That didn't end well.
about a year or two later I straight-up told this other girl "Hey, we never talk much, but that's only because I get a little nervous around you. And that's only because I think you're really pretty. And that intimidates me a little bit because I tend to get a little shy around girls as beautiful as you. You have a cute smile and I love your laugh and you just seem like a really great person and I'd like to get to know you better. Wanna hang out sometime?" ...And I told her all that during a class assembly on the day I dressed as a pirate just for the hell of it.
That didn't end well either.
I have horrible timing with everything.
ANYWAY, possibly one of THE WORST times was sometime in 7th or 8th grade. I had a thing for a girl in my English class and one day I somehow gathered up the courage to finally talk to her. In the middle of the period, I got up from my seat, walked to the other side of the room, stopped in front of her desk, and with everyone watching I nervously asked "Can I borrow a pencil?"
To which she replied "but you already have one. Right there in your hand."
And with the sweat visibly dripping down my neck, the only thing I could think to say was "Oh" before hastily sticking my shaking free hand down my pocket and taking out a half-melted Twix bar, taking a bite out of it with my feet frozen in their tracks.
Her friend behind her gave me a blank stare and asked "What are you doing?" Scared and confused, without thinking I just said "Uhh...I gotta use the restroom" and then immediately turned around to walk back to my desk, but tripped and fell two steps into my trek.
What do I think is the best strategy? I wouldn't know. None of my "tactics" has proven to be useful.
Don't do vegetables. Stay in drugs. Eat your school
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=52W-ahfPjbg
Honestly I've been approached with some really stupid things. Common pick up lines that everyone has heard of. Most of the time guys use them wrong or just say them wrong so it makes things awkward. Alot of the ones that were used are sexual so I'll just keep them to myself.
ReplyDelete"It smells like whatsupsexy in here"
Wrong. Please walk away. But sometimes when guys use pick up lines it just breaks the ice. They use them as an excuse to talk to you and it usually works. Unless you're a total werido and aren't worth my time. I think it's considered a "pick up" when they actually get your number.
When i first met my boyfriend it was at a hookah bar named Naaras. He had gone to my high school but I had never talked to him before. He was with the group of people me and my friend Celina were meeting up with so I introduced myself and what not. We sat across from each other, and i could feel him constantly staring at me. I was kinda weirded out so i asked my friend Celina if we could leave and meet up with some other friends. As we were leaving he texted Celina asking if i was single and he thought i was pretty. Whatever. I didnt think much of it. The next morning i got a text from a random number and it was him. Obviously I have terrible friends. Giving my number out to strangers and what not. The text said "Dinner with me at 8 if you ever wanna see your wallet again" Damn now I was being forced to go out with this guy, and it worked! haha we are now dating. Weird how things work.
Honestly i think if a guy has the guts to come up to me and use a cheesy pickup line he obviously has a sense of humor and i like that. If i give you my number consider your mission successful. If not you might wana work on a few things.
Straight up honey really I'm asking
DeleteMost of these fellas think they be mackin' but they be acting
Who they attractin' with that line, "What's your name, what's your sign?"
Soon as he buy that wine I just creep up from behind
And ask what your interests are, "Who you be with?"
Things to make you smile, what numbers to dial
You gon' be here for a while, I'm gon' go call my crew
You go call your crew, we can rendezvous at the bar around two
Once the laws of attraction have taken over, I totally agree that the first impression is tremendously important. I, however, did not realize it was such a quick process until I actually thought about that statistic!!!
ReplyDeleteIt makes sense though because if a guy comes up to me and tries to use a pick up line, I don’t find it attractive at all. It makes me wonder how many times the line has been attempted to use on other girls and also it doesn’t seem genuine, it just seems super rehearsed.
I think it is attractive when a guy can think on their feet, when they can use their surroundings or something you said to reply with something quick and witty because this seems to show a sense of intellect and it is a huge plus when it is humorous.
To me a “pick-up” has a negative connotation; it kind of denotes a fling or quick relations. I don’t pursue someone further than a friendship unless I intend to have an actual relationship with them so “pick-ups” of any form are not my thing.
The best thing a guy can do in my eyes is to be himself, be funny, charming, and respectful of boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed in initial interactions.
Iv never actually tried to get a girl with pickup lines because they can be very cheesy and cliche, however that is the same aspect that makes them useful. I have used them multiple times as a quirky way to make a girl laugh.
ReplyDeleteFor instance, i could look at her with a very serious face and attitude pretending im going to say something really sweet. And then ill just say something beyond corny and laugh, haha i really like the one that goes "See my friend over there, they want to know if you think im cute". hahahaha thats a good one!
So i have not been in a relationship in a long time nor have i tried much. But when I it doesn't tend to be pick up lines that i use to engage with someone, just feel dumb to me to use that approach. I much rather engage in actual conversation of some sorts. But i do use quite a bit or sarcasm and humor to ease my way in a suppose. if anything that is where pick up lines would go in my order of thing if at all. But i will say playing guitar/being a musician tends to work really well for what ever reason. So i suppose that works as pick up lines(not that i use that either). Im not a girl so i couldn't tell you if they work or not but I do feel being "real" and easy going tends to work for getting numbers i suppose but then again it all comes down to each individual, and sorry i couldn't contribute more to the theme of this blog that part of my life is for the most part always on the back burner.
ReplyDelete"Excuse me, you must be in the wrong place - the Miss Universe contest is over there ---->"
ReplyDeleteI've personally never used any pickup lines in an attempt to pick up a chick. I have however used them once conversation has been established as a form of humor. I do think they MAY have a chance at being successful if you are getting those vibes from across a room.
I have a friend who insists that they are the perfect "ice breaker" and girls think its "cute". It has worked a time or two but normally ends up blowing up in his face and he begins the walk of shame with a face redder than the cherry that was in the girls drink.
As far as a strategy, less is more. Introduce yourself, find a common ground for discussion, then read the situation. If they are interested the conversation flows smoothly, if not you should be able to tell when to pull the plug. Either way you establish your interest and if it is mutual numbers will be exchanged. Golden Rule: Don't get too excited.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpUMYQe6uHY
Any pick up line is a bad one. Just don't do it and you'll be much better off... the ones I find most annoying (due to some corny old men at work) ...
ReplyDelete-Did it hurt?
--did what hurt??
- when you feel from heaven?
That and...
- You shouldnt eat that dessert, your already sweet enough...
Hahaha... NO
My favorite thing to do when guys get all touchy feely and are trying to get my number...
-"How about you give me your number and ill text you mine..." types in numbers ### ### #### *save as guy from place* since I most likely forgot their name... ill just delete that later
No need for pick up lines just be yourself
From my personal experience I dont really like pick up likes. I think they are ridiculous and they make a guy seem desperate.Like how many girls have they tried that one on before? It would be nice for someone to just come up and talk to you so you can get to know a little bit about them and then if they seem interesting enough you go about on getting their number and whatnot.
ReplyDeleteI honestly find it kind of weird that some random stranger you dont know can just walk up to you and try hitting on you. No, thats way out of my comfort zone, I mean if I know you and we have mutual friends and I know youre not some crazy guy that just sees how many girls numbers he can get in one night and you use a pick up line thats corny or funny the yeah i'll give you my number. But I'm pretty sure it doesn't work that way and Im just an awkward turtle when it comes to dating.
As far as my relationship goes my boyfriend didnt really use a pickup line. Then again I wasnt really single at the time he started trying to talk to me, so this is quite awkward.....
But again I dont like pick up lines from ramdom strangers cause that creeps me out but if I know you and we have mutual friends then they're less creepy.
Personally i don't really care for guys who use pick up lines. But if they can make me laugh and not use an original line, then they have showed me that they have a great sense of humor. I just think that guys should be themselves and engage in a simple conversation. Pick up lines are not needed to get a girl. Having a personality and being yourself will get any girl :)
ReplyDelete"Do you know how much a polar bear weighs? Enough to break the ice"
ReplyDeleteThat's probably the funniest pick up line I've heard, and it may or may not have worked. I think the pick up lines that end up working, are the ones that weren't meant to work in the first place. Serious pick up lines don't usually work, mostly because they're tacky one-liners that don't show that the person is making any effort. If you try TOO hard though, you will be dismissed. The whole pick up ritual between men and women is a tricky process. If you can make a girl laugh(and no I don't mean laugh at you), you're probably in.
For me I've never had to use a pickup line to get a girl. The reason is because the relationships that I have been are from girls Ive met and known. Whether I meet them through work or school the use of pickup lines seems a little stupid to me.
ReplyDeleteIM not going to act like i haven't used a pick up line before because i have and some have worked and some haven't worked, but i generally don't think of pick up lines its just something i do on instinct. But as you get older pick up lines tend to be a lot less effective the reason being because so just about every girl at that age has had a guy use a puck up line on her so now instead of being ryan or james your douchebag #2465 i have found through a lot of trial and error that the best way to get a girl is to be yourself and most importantly do something that makes you stand out you have to show this girl that your smarter than your average bear in a sense. Remember guys girls are getting smarter so you have to step your game up and don't forget to read her body language very important
ReplyDeleteIn high school I dated "The Class Clown" so jokes where always around, he could piss a person off and then in a heart beat make them laugh. Chessy remarks is what I got all the time, so when we first met it was his way of flirting. So his pick up lines where just a way of being silly and getting a girl to laugh and get comfortable around him.
ReplyDeleteI personally think that a guy should just be himself dont even think about using those pointless pick up lines because I would just walk away, no matter how handsome I thought you were. A man who is confident enough to get turned down or get a girl, really shows more of maturity than a guy who's still saying "girl you must be tired, cause you've been running through my mind all day" like come on seriously guys you're old enough to be mature and ask a girl out with a better attitude.
So for sure just confidence is the best way to make a girl feel like you're not a loser trying to get her in bed. Especially a cocky confident like your better than everyone that's really not gonna get you anywhere, but a good confident like you care and can be a great guy for her.
"wow, do I know you? Because you look familiar you look a lot like my next girlfriend".
ReplyDeleteyou- " How much does a polar bear weigh?"
Her- "I don't know"
you- "enough to break the ice".
Do I think pick-up lines work, no. I do find them funny, and if said with enough charm I think the person you're approaching will also laugh about it to. I don't knock any guy who uses pick-up lines, because I understand the anxiety that comes along with approaching an attractive individual, and saying a funny pick-up line can often times lighten the mood. For the most part though men should steer away from using pick-up lines, and think of alternate ways to make a lady laugh, because there isn't a person alive who wouldn't enjoy a good laugh. However,if that's who you feel you are then by all means always be yourself. "If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything". - Marilyn Monroe
I think pick-up lines are very stupid and way too cheesy to even be considered for use. I have never used a pick-up line in my life and don't think I'd ever have to. I'm not saying I have this "game" that we talk about but I'm not completely a bozo at talking to members of the opposite sex. For a very long time, I used to be afraid of talking to girls and would either come off as a creep or weirdo from my nervousness around girls.I ,however, eventually realized that I shouldn't be afraid of myself around girls and just throw myself out there and if they want it then they want it y'know? I just guess that confidence in yourself shows girls that your not just a wimpy reluctant dude but that a man that feels proud about who they are to the point that they don't care if people do or don't like them, because they realize that they don't need everyone's approval and that they're just an independent mature person.
ReplyDeleteHonestly from my experience I think it depends on the pick-up line. This is because if they say something cute and funny I might just laugh and give them props for trying which would strike conversation. Then on the other hand if it's a sexual pickup line and I don’t even know them then it becomes awkward and I probably just want to get away as fast as I can.
ReplyDeleteI cant rememebr the last time i used a pick up line because i honestly think they our cheesy. I usaully just walk up to a girl anbd just break the ice by starting an actual conversation. In some occasions ill ask for their number or ill take their phone and put mine in. If they are intrested theyll text you first.
ReplyDeleteBeing as goofy as I can be at times, sometimes I use pick-up lines from the "Fresh Prince of Bel-Air." I've always been one of those guys who believes that the worse a girl can say is no, so why not go for it if you think that girl is cute. To be serious though, I usually just start a normal conversation with a girl to break the ice. Pick-up lines can be an epic failure depending on what you say too. If you can't even get her to crack a smile, a super awkward moment is born and your stuck. So yea, they may be cheesy, but pick-up lines still work in my opinion. You just gotta have guts.
ReplyDeleteAnd with that..."Say girl, you must be from Tennessee, cause your the only ten-I-see." BOOMSHAKALAKA
Funniest pick-up line I've heard was "Your lips look lonely, i'll introduce them to mine." Did it work? Maybe.. To be honest though, the most flattering pick-up line to use one me is just buy me a drink. But if somebody were to try the "pick-up" line approach they should come up with something that's going to make that person laugh. That immediately shows a sense of hummer, and who doesn't like to laugh? The truth is though people don't use pick-up lines as much as they used to. Either that, or I'm getting uglier. In our time now, the best pick-up line to get is a message on Facebook saying "what's up?" Somebody needs to bring "pick-up" lines back.
ReplyDeleteI don't think I would say I have any favorite pick-up lines, as a matter of fact I hate them. It just comes to show how typical a guy can be just to get s girl. I'm not saying that I don't admire guys who actually grow the courage to come up to a girl and start talking to them, trust me I do! It's just that I've seen so many guys just saying ANYTHING to get a girls number.. and more.
ReplyDeleteFrom personal experience I would have to say that one of the best ways I guy can make a good impression is by being himself, simple as that. No games no pick-up lines!
Most pickup lines are annoying and I don't even pay attention to the guy,unless there funny,but i've had a few cute ones used on me like" Are you Gillette, because your the best a man can get" and "I'm sorry to hear you dad is in jail, he must have stole all the stars and put them in your eyes". Some are cute and some are dumb, the stupidest one i've had used on me had to be" If I said you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?". I just walked away, I think only certain people like them, not everyone. I'm not much for them, a few of my friends like them, and a few don't, the others have no opinion.
ReplyDeleteThere was this guy who used a line from a song and I just looked at him and said "you're dumb" and walked away :) I think its funny when a guy uses pickup lines just to be funny when they are already in a relationship, but I don't think that it should be used when you are first meeting someone or your trying to get their number. I think the best pick up strategy is to approach someone and be yourself.
ReplyDeleteoh goodness I think there are so many pick up lines out there. There is actually one that my friends and I still make fun of to this day some guy came up to me saying, "I noticed you noticing me, so I thought I'd notice you too!" woah!! thats all I have to say. Turned out it was the guy behind him I was trying to "notice!"
ReplyDeleteI've only had a few occasions where people have used pick up lines, I'm otherwise unapproachable for some reason, but I enjoy it that way. It is a little odd when someone goes up to you out of no where with a pick up line. Some people go to places just to be seen, I like to go out and do what I came there to do, so I get a little peeved when dealing with unnecessary things, because I take offense as if they think I'd be there otherwise? Haha I don't know I'm weird. I feel more comfortable initiating some kind of interaction in an environment I come to often and able to get use to. However when I am already "talking" or dating them it's funny to hear the cheesy lines like, "I have to stop talking to you (Why?) you're too sweet for me I'm getting diabetes." I'm a cheese-ball so if someone can make me laugh then I'm intrigued. Although with cheesy, they have to be somewhat witty. But a problem I see nowadays is boys talking like 10th graders, talk to me with slang and I'm automatically turned off haha.
ReplyDeleteIf a man can show a little dominance with his approach without being overly cocky then it's interesting. I like from the get-go to know that we have similar interests though, so we have to know each other somewhat beforehand. My recent ex and I went to a party and we hit it off pretty well, we talked about so much that night, then while I tried to stay neutral he put his number in my phone and I liked that. I had went to his HS for a year and knew of each other because we had mutual friends, but never really talked but we'd always see each other in the halls, so remembering him back then made me feel comfortable. It was interesting because he swears he's never done that before, but that little impulse kept my interest. Some guys tip toe too much, then get upset or disappointed and stop talking to you when you get in a relationship. I'd much rather have a pick up line, or "strategy" so to speak, for something that has to do with my personality or interests though, it shows you're paying attention to things other than just looks and doing a little research about who the person is.
Loved all of the pick up lines and stories! Hope all of your future initial contacts with a potential love interest are full of humor, sincerity, and mutual admiration. See everyone back in class tomorrow (Wednesday).
ReplyDeleteI mean honestly im not bragging or not but i USED to have game and say really stupid stuff even though i wouldn't mean it. It was almost like a game or competition with friends on who would get laid tonight. (Thats me speaking for every single man out there that wont admit it!)
ReplyDeletethe way i see on how approach the situation is if you think you can see yourself talking or hooking up with that person before you say anything to her. so in other words if you can visualize yourself thinking like " i got this" then you can pretty much have a 75% percent chance you'll get what you want from that situation because you have that confidence and to me confidence is key.
The other 25% is on if you are in her interest or standards. so its up to you to make up that 25% when you go and talk to that person. and if it does workout then you build more and more confidence that the 25% then reduces to a less number and you feel more confident than ever before.