Love, that funny thing in the air

After reading, taking the test and looking at the people I know, I believe the different leaves of love addicts come from ones self esteem. Because if you have a high since of self esteem you don't need others to complete you. People are drawn towards other people with a high since of self esteem, thus others will always flock to you, so you never have the need to seek them out your self. All one, with high self esteem, has to do is to simply is just smile and get to know the ones who are brave enough to say hi to you in the first place. Also people with high self esteem don't tend to be shot down as far as those with lower self esteem. For instances if a person with a high self esteem gets shot down at the bar he/she usually looks at the situation under this short of light: "he/she is a jerk neck and isn't worth my time any ways" typically those with a high seance of  self, know how not to let them selfs down/don't allow others to take them down. As some one with low self esteem would look at same situation and probably thing along the lines: "what's wrong with me?""he/she is better, I'm to skinny/fat, tall/small, ect..."
And with saying people who have a low self esteem tend to be more "needy" to say, Bruce they feel that if they are abandon there is no more hope. So when they do get hooked up with some one else, they feel important and it gives them that super human boost and acting like a drug upon their body.

From just looking at my friends and seeing how they react differently is mostly where I take this idea from. Again I will say I'm a life guard, Ive been a year round swimmer all of my life, so I can say I know MANY people with a high self esteem(you sorta have to be, to be able to run around in a speedo/skin tight racing suit, because they show sooo much of your body to the world, that you have to be confident in your self, body and proformance or you will crumble from those around you) and with every group, there are always a few who arnt confident, but the way these two different type of people react to love is intently different. The confident high self esteem person, they tend to be confident to stay in love and love truly while the relationship is going on, so they have no need to be supper beggie and trust their partner to go out. And the low self esteem persons seems to constantly trying to prove that he/she is worthy and they tend to act more desperate... Like a person who is addicted to other things, be it caffeine, drugs, or other stuff.

And that is my view on love additions :)
-dani

Blog 3- Is Love Your Drug?

The Brain in Love Video
Love Addict Test
Dr. Helen Fisher's Attraction Test

Watch "The Brain in Love" video and take the self-quizzes at the links above and see what personality type you are and if you are a love addict.  Now that we know that love creates dopamine in the brain similar to many drugs like cocaine and meth, we can now understand how many can become addicted to being in love.

Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not?  Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? Etc.

Beluga Times

Thanks again everyone for letting me go to Sea World Monday and learn how to improve my interpersonal communication skills with Martha the beluga whale!  I tried your pick up lines on her and I think they worked!  HaHa

The crazy things we say

Many of you probably don't know this, but I'm a life guard. Life guards always seem to be hit on, why not, they only wear a swim suit for a uniform and save you life... But that's where I always hear some of the craziest pick up lines, the most typical one has to do with CPR. Usually some thing like "hey, need help practing CPR?" or "you may save me any time of day" or "hey, I think I'm choking, can you give me some CPR".... None of those worked for those guys at all, they are WAY over used and way to cheesy and an immediate turn off.
For my self, I've never used pick up lines on anyone, I typically just hang out with a person I have a cruch on or is hot to find out if he's worth the time of day. But my strategy is typically, asking the guy if he would like to play some paintball or air soft and from there I can figure out if he likes to have fus and is adventuresome or if he's lame and acts like a baby when he gets shot. But I think the best strategy is just to find out if  the other person is a neat person over all.
-Danika

Most studies are wrong..I say 2 minutes,not 4 mins.

Seriously, I think most of us in the fast paced world are very quick to dismiss either someone with no substance,no motivation,and above all else;wait...dang, I 4got...and it was the most important thing but when in doubt, don't utter a word. I have trended that males and females alike both tend to find a quieter person more mysterious than someone who is a blabbermouth at the end of the bar with all his/her friends around them. I am not saying that the strong,silent type is more agreeable..No,not at all..but what i am saying that is if they are easy on the eyes then males/females tend to look beyond the 2 minute mark with anticipation that at any moment this beautiful monument to the human species is going to open their mouth and vomit is going to start spewing out all over them. I am speaking figuratively..I hope you have gathered? I say this because we all have issues, every last one of us and life is complicated with sometimes enuff stress to overload a supercomputer,but that doesn't mean we have to throw word vomit all over a person that sat down next to us at the local tavern to buy us a drink. That truely is a difficult gauge about others in our realm of cohabitation, how much is enuff and how much is too much? Pickup lines. Hmmmmm? Seeing as I work primarily down in Laredo,Tx and thats a bordertown with very few non-spainish speakers, I get alot of women that go up to myself and try to trick me with conversation and after about 2 minutes wanna say,"Ah, ha! You do speak spainish." My personal favorite has always been....This is in Laredo only, I would never say this in this town without laffing halfway thru it....ready? Hereitgoes,"Oyes Babydoll, U tha best thing outta Mexico since chicklets." I cant even type it now without laughing. Remember this though most of all...Marraige is Grand,but a Divorce is ten grand! At least? So think hard before you take that galpal home or that cowboy with the black stetson,cuz nobody wants to be a notch in somebodys belt.

Blog # 2 SO YOU'RE ATTRACTED, NOW WHAT? Comments due Monday, Sept 24th

Now that we have discussed what men and women find attractive, what's the next step?  Studies show that we have approximately 4 minutes in the contact stage to make a good impression.   And based on that first impression, many of us make up our minds on whether or not we want to pursue the relationship to the next level or just remain acquaintances. 

Share with us your favorite pick-up lines (funny, serious, cheesy, etc).  From your own experiences, do they work?  What do you think is the best "pick-up" strategy? (Leave a green dangly earring behind? Put your phone number in their phone?)  Let's see what you can come up with!

Boys vs. Girls.

The last class was actually really funny because we went back and forward with both boys and girls. I just want to add for the guys on what we look for in a girl, which would be either to sing or dance. If you can't sing you better know how to dance like me! Ha, but if you can't dance, you have to have a voice of an angel. If you can do both you are just a pure angel.

P. S. Girls in jordans and can drive stick shift are bonuses. I'm just stating my opinion.

guys an gals with GAME

Who doesn't know of what I speak? That ability to play the opposite sex like a harp with magnificence and clarity. We probably all know who we have the ability to manipulate with our smile, with our silent treatment, with our glances that can say much more than words... and if that were the only means of defense then we would all be guilty and be sumarily put to death. I know I should be shot evry time I go to tha mall. Thank god for sunglasses.When I am cold busted; I usually utter...." Babydoll, you would look great in an outfit like that.." Lie,.... whats that? In Texas we call em tall tales and Gamerz can get away with some whoppers, and i dont mean burgers either. Yup, Its the true gamerz out there that have the real power.. they can unlock doors to rooms the rest of the world cant even access. As a man who has twice been divorced, I realized lomg ago that I am a horrible liar but I am getting better at catching the women in their web of lies that they weave. Obviously, I know that my wisdom has me at quite an advantage but I also realize that makes me harder to sway in any direction or another. LIke this one lady that I dated awhile back, she was an English teacher at a local high school and was always encouraging me to go with her to their high school football games. Primarily because she was the cheerleader coach as well. Well the first year I went out with her; that school went 0-10. Next year, I start missing games and she calls me out on it... I tell her that I wasted all my friday nights tha year b4 watching those poor chaps on the field getting kicked around the football field,and I deserved to have a good friday night for once..She agreed and over dinner she mentioned that one of the football players had started to cry after their latest defeat and evry1 of his teammates could see his emotional distress over it and she just said she had a feeling abt this next game... Well, its a week later and just for giggles I had decided to show up2 alamo stadium after having a few drinks after leaving a downtown drinkery. Wow, her high school was getting slaughtered like always but was doing a little butt kicking of their own. So I start hoopin and Holerin for the team and she sends me the most outrageous text telling me to leave and how embarrassed she was with my antics nd clearly her colleagues knew I was drunk and they all knew we were seeing one another,,, So what do I do but say, "Babydoll, 4give me? I dont know how to behave because yall have never won diddly in tha whole time I have dated U."......by tha way she 4gave me. GAME!

Hangin with the Sea Lions

Thanks to my 2:00 class, I got to go and work on my Interpersonal Communication skills with Dylan the sea lion at Sea World yesterday! 

Sooo my band's playing a show this Friday...

Time: 6-12
Place: 2410 N. St. Marys Street
Cost: $10

If you can go, say "Guilty Verdikt" at the door. It'll really help us out a lot.

how long are we supposed to have thids weather? I gotta be a @sac freakin early 2morrow and then ovr at nwv by the afternoon to hear only bad news.. I am almost certain?

A time someone told a lie

I was in a group of about 4 or 5 people. We were all talking about football and what positions we played. This one guy, which I did not know, said that he started every game as either a running back or line backer. I knew he was lying because he did not even have the size nor the look of being athletic. He was a little bit of a chunky guy and every time he said "yea I know bro, I started and played that position like a thousand times already." I was honestly just laughing at him because I knew that we football players do not repeat every time we bring our position that we did that a thousand times. And he also was annoying. The whole group just ignored him the rest of the time.

Lies hide umoung good suprises

Typically I am a really easy person to lie too, because I just flat out right believe in most people. Though I can figure out some, like last December my guy, Chris, who is always on time and always prepared, was support to pick me up for a fancy date at incarnet word for the opening of their light cerimony, I kept waiting by the door and it was taking him FOREVER. He called me and was telling me, he had just gotten busy working on our old high schools website, (which wasn't updated at all) and so I was wondering why he had lied to me. (I checked it because I was support to be helping my best friend, who is a grade behind me, with a project and I figured the dates would be posted then) FOr the entire night he seemed distant, it was non-verbal cues, he would stand differently and stay a little farther back, so that was sorta upsetting, and so I called my best friend Skye and asked if sometime was wrong, they are like siblings to each other, and she seemed a little distant. So when the night was comming to a close, Chris, my guy took me out by the fountan underneath all of the lights at incarnet word and he was acting really weird, so I asked him what was wrong and he got down on one knee and asked me to be his and to promise my self to him until we were both ready to move farther into our relationship. Even though he lied, it was a good one. And that was one of the most resent lies I figured out before hand... Well figured most of it out before hand.

It was all non-verbal cues that told me something was up though. He wouldn't make eye contact, he stood farther apart, the tone of his voice was different and he just seemed nervous.

-Danika Birkes

to lie or not to lie,

That truly is a question that is loaded almost any way you put it...? Oh we would like to think that everyone out there is as honest as Abe Lincoln, but the reality is we not only lie every day but also encourage others to do it as well. Any parent that has left there child alone while they ran to do an errand knows what I speak of as well as many of my fellow students will acknowledge that they were told as home alonerz that if a stranger called and asked where their parents were; they were told to respond with," They are busy right now" or "They can't come to the door right now". So to personally discredit or think a specific persons ideology is bad in telling a lie; I cannot do. In my job especially, I cannot tell you how many times a mom is neglecting to see what is right in front of her. Daughter is wearing baggy clothes for weeks if not months, and daughter is in the midst of child birth, when in the back of my ambulance unit or as I like to call it my confessional the daughter admits,never in the presence of her mother or father, that she has been pregnant and hiding it from her folks. Signs and symptoms are obvious clues as well as getting a good history but also how daughter becomes less talkative in the presence of her family. It is times like then that you need to have a good partner that will distract mom an dads attention long enough for you to  get to the truth because after all every1 wants whats best in regards toward the safety of their loved ones.

Blog # 1 EXCUUUUUSE ME! Comments due Monday 9/17

While most human beings will engage in making some excuses in their lives, the common Ben Franklin saying “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else,” may be more of a self-fulfilling prophesy for excuse-makers than simply avoidance or laziness. Whether excuses are used to shift blame or improve what other people think, it may be easier for excuse-makers to live with excuses than think about living with having tried at something and failed.

Share with us a time when someone has given you an excuse that you know was a lie. How did you know that it wasn't the truth? What verbal/nonverbal cues were there? How did it affect your perception of  that person?

Ryan Hartley is in the BLOGG!!!

Just thoughts i would let everyone know..

Green

Howdy, I love the color green, I'm making sure I know how to work this. :P thanks y'all.

As mentioned in class...

Hey guys! During my about me we mentioned that I have done aerial dance, here are several pictures for those that don't know what it is :) and if anyone is interested there is also a local facebook page you all might want to check out!

P.S. I threw in a picture of my little french bulldog that we also mentioned in class, his name is Winston!


See you guys tomorrow!