Can You Fake It 'Til You Make It?- Blog 11 Due Nov 26th
Watch the Following TED Video on the Power of Nonverbals
This weekend, purposely change your nonverbals for 2 minutes (positively or negatively) as demonstrated in the above video and blog about the results.
I think it is possible that the lady in the video made "fake it till you become it" work for her. I don't know that it happens in 2 min but maybe in the long run that's what It takes.
ReplyDeleteSO I just did the superwoman pose for 2 minutes and went on to my roof and jumped off..... I didn't fly away like superwoman! Hahaha but maybe throughout the day ill be more positive.
I had an important event happening this week that required for me to do something I'm not used to doing, which is confronting a family member.I took a couple of deep breaths and did the superwomen pose and it did help. I was able to resolved the issue and we are a happy family again. I think a person must have the desired to be powerful for this exercise to work, is my opinion.
ReplyDeleteThis exercise works in many different ways. 2 minutes seems like a very short time, but for some reason it seemed to have an effect on me. I agree now with the researchers that you can change your brain by our nonverbal communication. Its how the way you look at things and approach things positively and negativity.
ReplyDeleteI think that depends on the situation and the person, just because you do something, doesn't mean its going to change your outlook on things or change the outlook on whats going to happen. I think its all by chance, if you do that, then maybe this will happen. Or the other way around, if something happens, then your going to have to do something else.
ReplyDeleteI get really nervous to talk in front of people during class if called upon or called out by my teachers, so i hope this works. I think when they call on my and I'm more certain i know the answer then my confidence goes up. Other wise i sink down like its a super power and to become invisible. Most of the time when i have to give a presentation i prepare days before and keep practicing I think if you believe it works than it will, it might take more than your first try. I'll work in my wonderwoman pose and let you know if its for me.
ReplyDeleteI really didn't get a good chance to change non verbals this weekend because i was just around my family and they already think im weird enough =P, but this is something i have had previous experience (non verbal). I use to play poker quite a bit and still play some other card games now and a lot of times players react physically to what is in there hand and here is the important part, intently or unintently. Which is a skill some players work on and some don't even think about because its natural. As for me and more casual communication I tend to shrink up i think when i am by myself because i do not like to draw attention unless there is a reason too. when i with others i tend to be very open with my posture and stances.
ReplyDeleteYesterday I went to go play football with a bunch of my high school friends. I actually did the power pose and I don't know why but a couple of guys were staring at me like they were scared of me. I'm not lieng either, which is funny, but when I started moving like to play. I felt like nothing can touch me, and like I'm the man. I was more assertive and was telling preople what to do and where to stand. I felt good the whole time I was playing.
ReplyDeleteI sat straight up, back straight and my chin pointed in the air confidently for 2 minutes. Then I went to my mom and confidently asked her to buy me a PS3 for Christmas and clearly explained why I should get one. My reasoning was so crisp, that I thought there was no way shed say no...it did not work. She just laughed at me. Oh well, at least my confidence was through the roof.
ReplyDeleteI had a quiz in my math class, so before I stood with my hands in the air in a V shape hoping that it would increase my confidence. When I finished the 2 minute excercise I didn't feel like my confidence in doing good on the quiz increased, however I did feel more positive about the situation. My mood was less tense and I was happier for some reason. Taking my quiz I was comfortable, and felt I did well. So, I guess people are going to start looking at me crazy because i'm going to start walking around as if I just made the game winning jump shot of the NBA finals..
ReplyDeleteI hate confronting anyone about anything but my bestfriend had been getting on my nerves lately and i wanted to confront him with out feeling like i was hurting his feelings but at the same time i wanted to get my point across. I did the superwoman pose for 2 min then i proceeded to talk to him and i actually felt really confident which was surprising and i was able to clear our issues in a positive manner.
ReplyDeletemaybe doing this exercise more often in two minute intervals helps your overall look on everything and therefore benefit you. after doing this a few time before taking a task or just going somewhere i felt more aware, more active in what ever i was doing. confidence is a weakness of mine and this helps getting over that "I can't do this" hump.
ReplyDeleteI dont feel much different, i feel well streched haha. i can see how just sitting for two mminutes can help just reflect, and maybe evaluate you actions and change things you dont like. Thus making you more confident, however i dont really see how this could do much for someone.. :)
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I think the 2 minute exercise can ave short-term effects and could help you out in a situation that is about to happen. Making the 2 minute exercise more frequent is what will make "faking" it into a reality.
ReplyDeleteI tried one of the power poses before i had to make a call to a business. For some reason, I'm EXTREMELY shy when it comes to that kind of stuff. Anyways, after doing the power pose for 2 minutes, i made the call and it turned out surprisingly easier than any of the other times I've tried.
I don't think that doing this exercise makes much of a difference. I don't think that posture has much to do with your self confidence. Sometimes I sit in a "weak" pose and I still tend to feel very confident with myself. I feel like it just depends on how you view yourself. I think that people may think that this technique works because they really want it to work. While others may be skeptical and it may never work for them.
ReplyDeleteI get home in a very positive, energetic mood in order to deal with my roommates. When I got home yesterday I sat in my car, in a "low-power pose" for an extra couple minutes. My roommates came at me with the same old jokes and while my comebacks are usually on point they weren't coming out quite as confident. It could have been the pose but I think a persons attitude and their own positive or negative reinforcement can produce results similar to the body language poses.
ReplyDeleteMy coworker and I have not been getting along lately. The other day we had so much attitude when we spoke to each other, it was unbelievable. I finally decided to talk to her so we can work whatever it was we needed to work out. My posture was perfect, I had an open mind, and I had a positive attitude. I asked her if we could talk so we fix the problem. Surprisingly we talked it out and we fixed the problem. I definitely think that what I learned helped me fix my problems at work
ReplyDeleteI guess 2 minutes can be the small beginning towards the changes in attitude. I don't think that 2 minutes will switch your attitude, but maybe if done frequently they will. Whether you believe it or not, I think trying this out would be beneficial.
ReplyDeleteCommunication is definitely very important in any relationship. I do agree that nonverbal behavior is in fact a big factor in communication. This past week I had actually been thinking about this alot; what can I do to maintain a positive outlook and friendly demeanor through these next stressful weeks? i started taking five minutes a day to practice a yoga pose and deep breathing. The result is quite incredible! Not only has my mood improved but I can breath better too. Then I started noticing that I tend to slouch, so I've been trying to correct that and it does seem to really improve one's confidence. It's amazing what posture can do for one's attitude, appearance, and overall well-being.
ReplyDeleteI never knew how important and effective non-verbal communication could really be. I am not even sure on how well I present myself when I am in a relax mode with friends. Now I am going to start wondering what kind of non-verbal communication I am giving off.
ReplyDeleteI am the second least confident person I know. So I tried a little social experiment on my friend, Joseph. He's the first.
ReplyDeleteAlmost immediately after class, I met up with him and without explanation told him to put a pencil in his mouth and timed him for 2 minutes. Then I positioned him in an upright akimbo pose for another two. After we preceded with a few stretches and jumping jacks, I convinced him to go up to attractive female strangers that were walking by and say "Hi. I'm Joseph. I think you're really pretty. Can I have a hug?" 3 times out of 3, a hug commenced and smiles were made.
Even though I didn't do so myself, just walking him through all the steps gave me a boost of confidence. I kinda went on a date today with a friend of mine. I've seen movies with her before, but this time I wasn't as nervous. I still acted stupid as always, but I didn't feel nearly as stupid this time.
these past couple of months my dad and i haven't been getting along and i just couldn't get myself to get together with him and tell him i actually felt about things. after he did something dumb over the break i was fed up and couldn't keep things to myself so i called him up, asked him to meet me, and talked to him. i had my hands on my hips, a stern posture, and a stern voice. i got my point across and hopefully things will change for the better. but i knew that i had to stand up and say something to him so i would feel better about myself and know that i at least tried.
ReplyDeleteI found this video to be very insightful and can empathize with a lot of things she is saying but I'm a real confident person I trust myself and those I keep around me as for the power poses well I'm 6'2" and about 280 pounds so it's pretty safe to say I take up enough space lol. As for the stress hormones I like having the ball in my hands when the game is on the line so to speak that's just the competitor in me I never sweat the small stuff and I think I'm a very calm person who can deal with an enormous amount of stress
ReplyDeleteI tried this change out over Thanksgiving weekend since my family and I are very expressive and reliant upon our nonverbals to communicate with each other. We usually all sit and are very close, however, I kept my proximity with them and tried to hide my facial expressions. It did not take long for my family to notice the difference. My Aunt Anna was the first to notice and since she associates food with happiness, therefore she asked me if I was hungry.
ReplyDeleteI do believe that your posture has a lot to say to people before actual words are used. After watching the video I found that I am the type of person that's almost always in a power pose. Sometimes that nonverbal gesture translates to overwhelming confidence, most of the time it's just social awkwardness. I don't think doing these power poses for just two minutes can completely change the life of someone, I think proper use and repetition is what can truly lead us to a better, more confident self.
ReplyDeleteI love this whole concept of "fake it till you make it." It's strong and it is something that you can apply to yourself every single day. I didnt get the opportunity to test it out this past weekend because i JUST finished watching this video, but I do believe that body language can change everything... I used to tell A friend of mine who isnt always very sure about herself, that it doesnt matter how sure you are about yourself or how confident you are, just pretend to be. I always believed that if I pretended to be confident and sure of the things that i did, that everyone would honestly believe thats how I felt.... Anyhow I will be keeping these ideas in mind as I go into many more interviews, its nice to know that such little gestures make such a big difference.
ReplyDeleteBody language is a very powerful subconscious motivator. Even if you don't believe in yourself, the use of having your body being confident can actually pique your interest in the activity that you are doing and could increase your chance of doing the activity competitively next time. For example, I am a busboy at a local pizzeria and whenever we are backed up on a Saturday, our busiest day, I notice that the dish washing busboys feel their work is hopeless and let stuff get even more backed up. However when I encourage them, I notice they stop slouching over the sink and stop doing things so slowly, and stand up straight and wash dishes faster. It's interesting to see this phenomenon and it's because of this that I believe your posture has everything to do with the self-fulfilling prophecy.
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