With
more than 30 years of experience as a marriage counselor, Dr. Gary
Chapman's 5 Love Languages has helped couples at every stage of
marriage and at pivotal points in their relationships. After many years of counseling, Dr. Chapman noticed a pattern:
everyone he had ever counseled had a “love language,” a primary way of
expressing and interpreting love. He also discovered that, for whatever
reason, people are usually drawn to those who speak a different love
language than their own. Of the countless ways we can show love to one another, five key
categories, or five love languages, proved to be universal and
comprehensive—everyone has a love language, and we all identify
primarily with one of the five love languages: Words of Affirmation,
Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.Since The 5 Love Languages® debuted in 1992, over seven million copies have been sold, making The 5 Love Languages® a perennial New York Times bestseller.
1) Find out what Love Language you speak at : Love Language Test
2) Blog about what Love Language you speak and share with us an example of either how you showed someone you loved them using your "Love Language" or how you knew that someone cared about you by what they said or did through their "Love Language".
After taking the test I have figured out that my love languages are primarily physical touch and quality time. I could not agree more, i absolutely love to hug and hold my boyfriend's hand and of course spending time with him above anything he could materialistically give me. The test was simple and very general but I can see how it may help people in their relationships. Out of 12 I had 0 for "receiveing gifts" being my language, that does not surprise me; I appreciate all of the tangible gifts my boyfriend gives me but I appreciate all of the intangible things he gives me much more like love and affection.
ReplyDeleteOne prominent example showcasing our "love Languages" My boyfriend and I were in Chicago for a winter vacation together (it was amazing by the way and or first trip together)but we were in a restaurant sitting across from each other at the table, because it was too small to sit next to each other, and we were holding hands across the table and talking together. A gentleman next to us started talking to us and asked if we were on our honeymoon!! We had not been dating that long but he said to us that he could tell we loved each other by the way we were vacationing together and holding each other's hands; it was very sweet and romantic :)
My love languages is words of affirmation which makes senses to me, words can go a long way. For someone to express how they feel about me in meaningful words gives me a warm feeling inside. I also had quality time in my top language's. spending time and good conversation is so important to me in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteMy love language was quality time, and I agree to the fullest. Im not a fan of long distance relationships, because I want to be able to spend quality time with the person I am with. What's a relationship without quality time. There is no way in my mind that texting would be enough, let alone skype. Trust is the most important part of a relationship, but quality time is not far behind.
ReplyDeleteQuality Time is my primary love language. I would highly agree with the results of this quiz. For me time is always something hard to come by. Between going to school full time and working a full time job it sometimes gets very difficult to spend some good Quality Time with my boy friend. I understand how important it is to invest just as much time in our relationship as, so all of the rest of my spare time goes to him. When we are together our attetion belongs to nobody else except each other. We spend our time doing the things that we enjoy most. We will find ourselves walking the Riverwalk, looking for a new restaurant to try or watching the latest movie in theatres. What ever it may be we try to make the most out of our time... What I appreciate the most from him is the time that he takes to do things he doesnt enjoy... like taking this quiz and going shopping at the mall, just to make me happy.
ReplyDeleteMy love language is "Quality Time" I think this describes me perfectly. Since my boyfriend is away at A&M for college the time we spend together is important. In the past 3 months I have seen him 3 times and whenever we do see each other our time is our time only.When you spend more time apart than you do together any time you get with them you want to make the best of it. We usually see each other for two days at a time and day one we go out on a date, and day two consists of laying down and being lazy just talking about everything and anything. Just having that time together really means the world to me and it brings us a lot closer.
ReplyDeleteMy love languages are quality time and physical touch. I definitely agree with this assessment. I love spending time with people I love; it means even more because I don't have much to spare these days. With work and school, my boyfriend shows his love by making time for me and working around my busy life. I do the same for him. I have always been a hugger. I believe a hug says more than words can. I enjoy holding hands with my boyfriend. I believe that touch is important in any close personal relationship. I believe that quality time and physical touch are more important than any materialistic gift.
ReplyDeleteMy love language is quality time, I completly agree with this assesment results. I do love spending time with a significant other rather than talking on the phone or receiving gifts from them. To me the quality time together is a gift within itself. Although I do not have a boyfriend, but the guy I am dating we only see eachother maybe once a week because of crazy schedules. I will admit it can drive me crazy just because I would rather hang out with him than talk on the phone or send a text message.
ReplyDeleteMy language is quality time, i feel like i can really connect with that certain person than just saying yeah and ok over and over when im talking to someone else. Just a few days ago i was with my boyfriend and we were going to go out and see a movie and go shopping, but we ended up just talking in his car. That meant more to me than him buying me a gift. I would rather spend time with him just talking and being with him than shopping and getting gifts.
ReplyDeleteMy love language is "Quality time" and Physical Touch."When I' with a people I normally hang out with they're on a different levlel than someone i just met or barely know. I think thats why my highest score was Quality time, taking the time to really connect with certain people you know and love. I'd rather hang out with the guy I like just at home watching movies being ourselves, than over doing it and going on some crazy expensive date or getting an insane gift he got me. Being touched i guess is more towards my affectionate side. Around my friends and family we are all big huggers we hug, kiss each other on the cheek we're mexican its our culture. I was surprised cause I usually don't like being touched very often by people I don't know or don't feel comfortable around. But i've always liked hugs I don't like it when you don't shake my hand when I first meet you I think its important.
ReplyDeleteMy love language is quality time. I think this is super accurate because my boyfriend really likes when we have quality time together. He like can't go a day without seeing me....It's kind of weird. But I'd much rather hang out with him than get presents from him because thats even weirder. I do enjoy spending time with him though. I'm not really one to show affection alot either so quality time does fit me the most.
ReplyDeleteMy love language is quality time. It's getting more and more difficult for people to spend quality time with another person. So it means a great deal to me when someone is willing to give me their time and undivided attention. For instance the friends who are willing to sit down with me or go hang out are the ones who most often receive my time and attention because I understand the difficulty of finding the time first off, and secondly resisting the urge to multitask.
ReplyDeleteMy love language is quality time. I think this is pretty accurate, because I feel when a person sets aside things to listen and respond in a meaningful conversation really demonstrates good character. Everyone likes to get their message accrossed, so when somebody actually takes the time to not talk, but instead listen really shows me that they care, and that they know their problems aren't bigger than everyone elses.
ReplyDeleteTook the test and it said my love language was Quality Time followed by Physical Touch. Can't really argue with that, I am a guy that values one-on-one time. I mean sure you can give a person a gift, or words of affirmation, but to me it's time together that helps to build a relationship and makes memories that you won't forget. I've had plenty of friends and a few girlfriends in the past that have given me gifts and such, but none of that was necessarily something to remember compared to the times we've spent together. Things like road trips out of town together and having some of those "it wasn't funny at the moment" kind of memories are what speak to me most.
ReplyDeleteTurns out that my love language is.."drum roll" .. Quality time. Who would have thought. funny enough I was 1 point away from having it tied with affirmation though. After reading what it said about quality time, and realizing how close affirmation was to being tied with it that my who life is summed up in this. Every relationship i have had/have/ and will come to make is based on these qualities in people.
ReplyDelete"Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful."
this happens so much in today's society too, i think it shows true character when you can set things down and devote time to someone special, and quite possibly why i try to help all those that i can to the best of my abilities.
So a good example of this would be all the times someone asks me to give them a "guitar lesson" or help them with their car. That may sound silly but to be honest my intentions are good but I know better than to think they will remember everything I say or teach them. But that relays to them that hey I will help regardless of the return because that's what friends/family/lovers do.
I guess I can join everyone else and say that my love type is also quality time and my second one was words of affirmation. I'm mot going to lie I am not really surprised because I am that type of guy that likes one on one time and just get to know what people or my loved one is all about. Now an example that I can use is, my girlfriend and I are now living together, this was not on purpose, its a long story. anyways now that she is living with me, I can say we love to spend time together, we can literally just sit next to eachother and relax, or watch tv. no matter how we are spending it, when its watching, laying down, or just in the same room, we can always just sense a feeling of comfort and relaxation. we actually know a whole lot more about each other. now I know quality time is basically everyone, but to everyone and me it does mean a lot when you an spend so much time with one person who turns out to be your best friend in your life.
ReplyDeleteI'm tied for my highest between Quality Time and Physical Touch. The second highest being Words of Affirmation. That sounds about right.
ReplyDeleteI'm pretty blind when it comes to "signs" or hints that girls give off signifying their interest for me (if at all), so I can't really give an example. But I've shown people I care by giving my full undivided attention and hugging them when they felt down and trying to find something nice to say about them whenever possible. I savor every second I'm in their presence regardless of us doing anything significant or not. Their company is significant enough for me. Gifts and favors aren't a necessity, but they're not unwelcomed either.
Upon reading back what I just posted. It almost sounds like I'm speaking from the perspective of a Labrador Retriever. Haha!
DeleteI had a 9 on both quality time and act of service. The other questions were much about getting or giving gifts to those you love which in fact i do like giving stuff or doing something for someone i love without nothing in return.
ReplyDeleteThis summer i was talking to this girl who was my ex before, ive always liked her a lot even when we broke up and that lasted for 3 months without communicating to each other, the point is that id take her on dates, id buy food and we'd have fun just watching movies together because we had time to do that and i appreciate the fact that she was taking quality time with me instead of somebody else therefore i felt like it was only fair enough if id do little things to make her happy and smile. We are currently not talking anymore because things happen but if she ever asked me to see her again i would cause she helped me just as much i helped her.
My love language is quality time aacording the the test. Which i for the most part agree with. I like spending time with the people i love the most which is my friends aand family and my girlfreind. I have to do spmething with them at least once a week. If my plans do get postponed with one of them i get really pissed.
ReplyDeleteThe language is acts of service and quality which fits because I believe this is really what counts in a relationship. I love just chillin with my friends and any girl that im talkin to at that time. I have to be able to just talk to a girl if it has any chance of getting serious. And with acts of service it doesn't have to be anything big but and i know this is going to sound corny but the thought really does count
ReplyDeleteWell, apparently my love type is (words of affirmation). I never thought about that before, but I guess thinking about it that makes since. I do and say things for him because I love him and cared about him not expecting anything on return. I notice that he praises me a lot and that does make me feel good and important to him.
ReplyDeleteThe second high score was (acts of service) I guess that makes since to me too, because I noticed that when I’m very tired and a bad mood, we always asks if is there anything he can do to make me feel better; just knowing that he cares and tries to help it does makes a difference.
My language is words of affirmation. I figured it would be quality time but that was my second highest score. When I read more about my language, I couldn't agree more. I love hearing how special I am to my boyfriend and I love when he sends random text saying he loves me or he misses me. I also love to tell him how much he means me and I always like to send him a message or two about how much I love him. I think that words mean everything. I alwa
ReplyDeleteMy language is, of course, quality time. I think spending time with anyone you love is important, but when you spend quality time with a lover, its when you can really let your guard down. I guess quality time for me is when you get a chance to really bond with somebody. You don't have to spend hours and hours talking to have quality time.
ReplyDeletemy love language is physical touch. i couldn't agree any more with that. i love holding hands when I'm in a relationship. i love being hugged. i think the whole sense of being touched is a kind of security. and of course you like to be touched by the ones that you love. in any relationship i think that you need touch to have a great healthy relationship.
ReplyDeleteMy love language was Acts of Service. I see that as a "don't tell me, show me" type of love language which I can agree with. Actions definitely speak louder than words and going out of your way to help someone with something is love. Folding clothes and pairing socks is something I dread doing, luckily my girlfriend takes it upon herself to do those things for me and that, in my opinion, is love.
ReplyDeleteMy love language is quality time. I believe that it's because I like when people pay attention to me and tell me that I matter. It just makes sense for me. That is just the way to show affection.
ReplyDeleteMy love language was quality time as well. I truly believe that in our time and age, this type of love language is dominant because we are an idealistic bunch that see how bad the world is but are determined to fix it. Our idealism puts forward this love language by pushing every worry some thing on our mind to the side and simply focusing on the time we have with our significant other before life's cruelty takes either of us away. We see that only through quality time with another person will you truly then be connected to them and understand them better as a person as a whole.
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