Dr. Daniel Goleman is the author of "Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships" and well known and respected for his work on the importance of having emotional and social intelligence vs. academic intelligence. Watch Dr. Daniel Goleman's video lecture on Emotional and Social
Intelligence at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hoo_dIOP8k&feature=related Take the self-test on emotional intelligence at the
following link
EQ self-test and
then comment on which of the 4 major aspects of emotional intelligence
you feel is the most important to living a successful life and why.
1. Self-Awareness
2. Self-Management
3. Social Awareness
4. Relationship Management
Out of the four, self awareness is most important to me because if you don't know whats going on with you and whats wrong, then you cant fix it or try to make it better. If you cant make it better then your either going to stay in the same spot or get worse, which will affect everything else going on in your life, like work, relationships, making really important decisions and your vales, your values will dwindle down to the lowest.
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ReplyDeleteThat Video was extremely interesting, im considering buying a book by Goleman. With that said i did well on the EQ test and it has me wondering which 4 of these i see in myself as the most important. And My first thought is self-awareness, but as i reflect each of these seem VERY important.
ReplyDeleteI think it best though take it in a chronological order becuase each of these become tied together at some point. Self Awareness is were it begins i believe there for making it probably the most important. To understand ones self and were that puts you in the universe(big picture) is ideal and you could not move forward from here with out that. From here i think it depends on what you value and where you want to be in life that determines the next in line. Depending on the field you want to pursue i can see relationship management, social awareness and self management all on the same plateau. Anyways the video was very informative and i kind of feel inspired to lose myself in thought on some of these concepts and analyze quite a bit of my life and others lives around me.
i did pretty good on the test. in some weird way the most important to me is relationship management. i guess it's because you can get the most done in life with multiple 'hook ups' rather than just doing everything your self with your time and energy. everyone needs help at one point or another. self awareness and management are pretty equal and close behind. everyone has their limits and it's important to know the peak of that limit.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with Dr. Goleman that emotional and social intelligence is as incredibly important as academic intelligence. I also believe that it is important to have a harmony with these three entities as mind, body, and soul to really live and excel as a prosperous worker, lover, and overall person.
ReplyDeleteI feel the most important major aspect of emotional intelligence is self-awareness, when you are aware of yourself you can build better relations with the people that you encounter. This is because you are aware of how you are coming off to your fellow associates, a prospective new love, etc. which thus enables you to also be socially aware of the people in your surroundings. I am certain all 4 aspects of intelligence are important and do not discredit any but having that key component of self-awareness I believe will also pave the way to self-management as well as relationship management.
In my opinion, self-awareness is the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. How are you supposed to know if your ready for any kind of relationship if you do not know the state of yourself? You can asses how you feel the weeks or months after your last relationship ended and even recall how you felt the moment it ended. That way, you understand what can possibly happen if you put yourself out there like that again, which is why it is important you evaluate your state of mind.
ReplyDeleteI believe, like Dr. Goleman, that social and emotional intelligences are just as significant as academic intelligence. One must have all three to be a successful person. I feel that the most important is self-awareness. If you aren't aware of your own emotions how can you sympathize with others or know what they're feeling? Being aware of your self enables you to be socially aware of others as well. The test told me that I have a high EQ. It also said that EQ counts for twice as much as IQ and technical skills combined in determining success.
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DeleteMy score was above the average normal person and it did hit some points in which i am affected by others ideas or views and that affects my feeling which make me change my thoughts about my own personal ideas. Never less it said i needed to be more open and let others view my point of view and thoughts i have before i listen to the rest. Which in that case it would be self-awareness.
ReplyDeleteI am talking about relationships with work ethics, not with another person.
I Agree with Dr. Goleman in the way that social/emotional intelligence are just as important as academic intelligence. Being able to socialize communicate and work well others is something that could present many opportunities unlike having sole academic intelligence. I think the most important of the 4 is self awareness, simply because is you are strong in this field then you have to power to see yourself, and learn to increase to others as you go along through life.
ReplyDeleteI believe that self-awareness is extremely important because if you are aware of your own strengths and weaknesses, and your own limits then you are more capable of presenting yourself in a manner which will be most beneficial to you, and those around you. Being aware of your weaknesses means you are able to focus on improving those areas you struggle in, and being aware of your strengths means being able to know which environments you will strive in. By knowing your own limits you become capable of maximizing the efforts in your work so you are capable of acheiving all you can.
ReplyDeleteI think relationship management is important because like the saying goes "its not about what you know , its about who you know", so technically speaking , you have to have a good relationship with people to get somewhere in life.You have to be aware of your relationships with everyone. As an exaple if you move to a completely new city where you dont know anyone but your co workers and boss , theyre going to be the ones helping you out and helping you meet people.
ReplyDeleteI think that all four are pretty important, but I feel like self-awareness is the most important because you have to know who you are as a person, and you have to know where you stand. Like you are the one that makes the decisions for yourself so you have to know what it is that you want. Not even gunna lie I did not watch the whole video. As interesting as it was I was not about to watch a 55 minute video. http://www.xlurbanmedia.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/ayee.jpg
ReplyDeleteMy score was above average and I'm sensitive to others feelings.I'm not the easiest person to share my feelings and this test called me out on it. While I think its important to balance out all four, I think self awareness and social awareness are very important to being successful in life and relationships. Self awareness is important in helping you realize how you act around people in a social enviornment helping you with your relationships. Social awareness is important by you learning who you talk to, what you like about your friends or people your constatly around. so when you choose a partner to be in a relationship with you know what you have in common, what you like about them, what attracted them to you.
ReplyDeleteI think that out of the four that self awareness is a little more important than the rest. If you don't know who you are you cannot develop real relationship thereby leading to relationship management. You cannot go through life without knowing who you are and how to better yourself. That has to be your first step before any personal, social, or relationship managements.
ReplyDeleteFor me the most important one is self-awareness. In life I beliebe you can't accept others until you have accepted yourself, and to me this is what it all falls down to. Putting yourself first and trying to find yourself first and then letting others find you. You can't start a healthy realtionship were you want love and flowers and all that beautiful things until you learn to love and respect yourself.
ReplyDeleteNot to brag or anything. but i did pretty awesome on that test. My thoughts on the importance of "self-awareness" are very similar to most of my classmates. Not that the other three aren't important, but i think we can all agree that self-awareness is definitely a "door opener" to life itself. It might sound dramatic, but from with the EQ test results told me; really knowing who you are will make your future a success.
ReplyDeleteWhile I think all four aspects are important, I'd have to say self-awareness is the most. I feel as though without self-awareness the other three aspects aren't even plausible. I feel as though in order to be successful in terms of relating to others, one must be aware of one's self. The other aspects come with different levels of importance, depending on the person... self-awareness to me can be thought of as the root of the rest.
ReplyDeleteI think that each of the four must be balanced properly in order to sustain a healthy emotional and psychological state of mind. Many people are saying that it is self-awareness that is the most important and I do agree. Having self-awareness does help to syncronize the other three into a healthy spectrum of socialization. I believe it does a lot of good to know what kind of person you are and the impact that you make on the outside world instead of having the mindset that you impact people how ever you think you do.
ReplyDeleteAfter watching that interesting video I believe that self awareness is more important to me. Before all of the other to concepts from the video I believe that self awareness should come first before all of the other ones. Because once you achieve self awareness it makes it easier to achieve the other ones as well .
ReplyDeleteI feel that relationship management is the most important to living a successful life because in order to be successful in life you have to build strong, healthy, stable relationships with those around you and in your workplace. To prosper in life and in certain job opportunities you need to be a good people person and know how to maintain personal, business, and intimate relationships.
ReplyDeleteI feel that self-awareness and relationship management are equally important in living a successful life. For one you have to know within yourself to know what you want in life and how your going to get there. If you don't have a plan mapped out, then your never going to know the steps that you need to get to that bigger picture.
ReplyDeleteOnce you know what you want in life, you get that job that you've been striving for. But, you may have had to build a great relationship with your previous managers and get letters of recommedations from people above to help boost yourself. Having good relationships with people that are above you can help prosper you in life.
Self awareness is what is most important because the key to make a sucessful life all starts with ones self. Establishing yourself first would only make everyother realtionship one has more sucessful, ultimatly letting you live a happy sucessful life.
ReplyDeleteA combination of emotional intelligence would seem ideal. I believe the most important though would be Self-Awareness. Recognition of yourself, whether it be capabilities, emotions, goals, or relationships, is the foundation in setting yourself up to be successful and happy. Understand yourself before you try and understand others, be aware of where you are and where you are heading.
ReplyDeleteAfter watching the first 36 minutes of this video I realized that I needed to make a post soon... Of the many intersting things that i have heard andd most likely will hear I feel like self awareness is the most important to living a sucessful life.
ReplyDeleteThe ablility to be able to prioritize proves to be useful ever single day. Deciding what needs our attention most will help to make the best use of our time and meet deadlines.
Being able to comprehend our subtle feelings helps people to make more informed decisions on what we may FEEL is right or wrong. Our minds are trying to tell us "been there, done that, maybe we shouldnt try that again"
Sel.f awareness becomes increasingly important when making decisions if we posess a strong set of moral rules or ethics. Desicions may be made by simply evaluating whether something is morally right or wrong...
... thats my opinion... now to see if the rest of the video changes my mind.
I think that all the components of emotional intelligence are important to help us succeed in life. (Self-awareness) help us to be more aware of our surroundings and be able to respond to different situations accordingly. (Self-management) we have a choice of how to think or feel and how we might handle the situation. With (Social Awareness), we are more aware of other people’s sensitivity. (Relationship management) helps express our thoughts and feelings openly.
ReplyDeleteDidn't get to watch the entire video. I barely have half an hour before the clock strikes 12, and the video is almost 56 minutes long. I tried listening to it while taking the quiz, but my ears begged me to put on some Avenged Sevenfold instead.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, according to my results, my EQ is above average with room to grow.
I feel Self-Management and Social Awareness are equally important to success. You can't have one without the other unless you a) Live by yourself in a highly secluded area miles away from civilization, or b) decide to kill a few people during the midnight premier of the new Batman movie.